I recently stayed in a posh New York hotel where porn was made available through a simple call to the front desk. Naturally, I decided to partake in their offerings. However, I believe I committed a horrible faux pas because I didn’t tip the nice guy who delivered the video. Faux pas aside, I started to think — who do you tip? I know you tip waiters, bartenders and hairdressers, but who else is tip-worthy? Being the true lady that you are, I thought you might be able to spread a little etiquette to those who really need it.
— Tit for Tat
In addition to the professions you mentioned, you should tip the shampoo boy, all kinds of delivery boys, valet parking attendants, strippers, drag queens, masseurs, sky caps, escorts (if they do it right), bell/doormen, concierges, taxi drivers, and at least one or two other categories I’m sure I’ve forgotten about. The rule is that most on this list make about $2.77 an hour and depend on tips for their livelihood. Be sure to be generous when you can — above 15% when service is exceptional — but do not feel the necessity to tip for poor service. As my grandmother once said to a poor waiter we had, “Honey, when your income depends on 15% of my kindness, you need to be a little more attentive.”
I’ve struggled with my weight ever since my days as a “fat kid.” Right now, I’m chunkier than I’ve ever been, and it’s really starting to bug me. On one hand, I know I could never be some 30-inch-waist twink. But on the other, I could never be some kind of bear-type who’s proud of being heavyset. How do I get a handle on the middle ground that’s right for me? The diets that have worked for me in the past don’t seem to do the trick anymore, and I don’t know how to push myself to exercise enough to make that much of a difference. (I HATE exercise!) Help!
— Jelly Belly
Bitch, I feel your pain. Less than eight months ago, I weighed 389 lbs. Now I’m weighing in at 178. I, too, was a frequent rider on the diet roller coaster. You know — one delicious shake in the morning and have the runs for the rest of the day. Or the low-carb diet…if I went one more day without bread and could have found Dr. Atkins, I would have done to him what Jean Harris did to her diet doctor! I should say be happy with who you are, but let’s face it — that’s crap. Our community judges — and harshly — those of us of size. It is seen as a lack of discipline and sloppiness. It is by far the one unforgivable sin, and the real tragedy is that most of the skinny boyz are not even aware of how cruel they are about it and just how badly it makes overweight people feel.
I had my stomach stapled and have thus far been very happy with the results. Most major insurance companies cover the operation. Don’t misunderstand me — it’s not the answer to all of your hopes of being thin. In fact, it creates a whole new set of problems. Most people overeat or misuse food for comfort. The operation will not allow you to do that. After nine bites, you’re completely full. Drinking is almost an impossibility. One cocktail and you’re wasted. Instead of finding comfort in food and drink, you’re forced to wrestle with your demons.
As for the exercise thing, I agree. Exercise is a byproduct of original sin. I’d rather have my teeth pulled out through my ass than exercise, but it is a key to unlocking part of the weight problem. I would encourage you to start by speaking with a dietician and perhaps get a personal trainer.
If you reach the end of that rope and decide that you are left in the same predicament, e-mail me and I’ll be happy to pass my doctor’s name on to you. Life is far too short to be unhappy. If your weight is holding you back, only you will be able to change it.
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