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Why can't gay teens have relationships? Not quite the right dyke?

Dear Lena, I am a ''newbie'' to the whole gay scene. I am only 17, but I am going to be 18 in a few months. I have been trying so hard not to let my jealousy of other people's relationships distract me, but it is hard not to notice. I hate the fact that no one my age is out, even in my area. I know it sounds self centered , but why can't gay teens have relationships like ... [Read]

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Online dating? Trust issues?

Dear Lena, I have been single for two years now. I'm in my late thirties -- I've found that I'm more serious now than I was in my younger, party days. As I am ready to start dating again I don't want to go the bars or look for possible relationships from one-night stands. I have been getting involved in some of the things I enjoy doing now and looking for social settings -- book readings, farmer's market, organizations, etc. ... [Read]

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Tired of juggling two? Finding the right catch? Lover's gay sex fantasy too kinky?

Dear Lena, There are two too many men in my life. One is stunningly blond and dumb, but ''just right'' in all the other dimensions. The other one, not as great to look at, is sweet and gentle, but sometimes lacks in the ''animal'' magnestism. I'm tired of juggling two. Who do I choose? -- Kitty Kat You poor thing. I would love to live long enough to have your problems -- to wit, treating men as nothing more then ... [Read]

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Boyfriend cheating via Instant Messenger? Need lessons in lesbian flirting?

Dear Lena, I am an 18-year-old living in southern California and I am very interested in girls, but I have never been with one. I don't want to label myself as anything, but I don't have any interest in guys at all. What does that make me? And how do I find a girl? I really want to experience being with another girl but I can't seem to find any. I guess you can say that I'm kind of shy, ... [Read]

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How to find a lesbian girlfriend? Great sex but not over the ex?

Dear Lena, I am a 33-year-old lesbian and, to top things off, I'm not completely out. My problem is that in all of my adult life, I have not been able to find a girlfriend. All of the women I've met have turned out to just want a few minutes of making out or to use me as a taxicab. I've tried online singles ads, but they have also been a big disappointment. What's worse, now I have a crush ... [Read]

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Transgender woman only wanted for sex? How small is a too small penis?

Dear Lena, Today is the first day I have ever read your advice column (that's because at first I didn't want anyone to see me get the magazine -- my shallow paranoia) but it seems to me you have a great gift and you give wonderful advice. Well, I am a 32-year-old African American transgendered woman. I live in the D.C. area. I have only been trans for four years. People tell me all the time how beautiful I am. ... [Read]

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Can't climax during sex? Unattractive on the inside? Gay senior housing?

Dear Lena, I am a 32-year-old gay male. I have rarely experienced an orgasm during sex. I can get an erection and generally maintain it during sex regardless of position. I can even have an orgasm if my partner isn't around. I have had a few instances where it was much easier to have an orgasm with a stranger, when I was the bottom, in not so perfect of circumstances (i.e., a bathhouse). Many of my committed partners have complained. ... [Read]

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Is this a relationship yet? Personal ad attracting wrong type? Where can I find the perfect man?

Dear Lena, Oh wise and wonderful knower of all things, I have a dilemma and was wondering if you could bless me with your counsel. A few weeks back I ended a two-year relationship and I think I'm ready to find me a new man. But those things can be some elusive little buggers(pun intended). I've met one or two guys, but they both seemed to have cracked open their heads on the very shallow ends of the character and ... [Read]

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Nineteen, gay, and too desperate for a relationship? Advice on meeting black lesbians?

Dear Lena, I am 19-years-old and have been out for almost two years. I've only been in one relationship, which ended after three weeks when he cheated on me the night after I gave up my virginity to him. My problem is that I go to a very conservative college that does not attract a large openly gay population, and I am not into the club/bar scene so I have trouble meeting guys. Recently, when talking to someone I had ... [Read]

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Personal ad lies? Younger for older? Relationship lacking emotional depth?

Dear Lena, I'm a 51-year-old male. I do not look my age, so I am told. I am average looking, but I don't consider myself ugly. What really makes my stomach crawl is when I read personal ads saying “I'm a handsome man with a beautiful body looking for the same.” In whose eyes do these men think that they are handsome? Do they look at themselves in the mirror every morning and say: “Gee, I'm handsome.” Are they egotistical? ... [Read]

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